The internet brought significant changes to cottaging, which was previously an activity engaged in by men with other men, often in silence with no communication beyond the markings of a cubicle wall.
As such, cottages were among the few places where men too young to get into gay bars could meet others whom they knew to be gay. Cottages as meeting places īefore the gay liberation movement, many, if not most, gay and bisexual men at the time were closeted and there were almost no public gay social groups for those under legal drinking age. Since the 1980s, more individuals in authority have become more aware of the existence of cottages in places under their jurisdiction and have reduced the height of or even removed doors from the cubicles of popular cottages, or extended the walls between the cubicles to the floor to prevent foot signalling. In some heavily used cottages, an etiquette develops and one person may function as a lookout to warn if non-cottagers are coming. Foot signals-tapping a foot, sliding a foot slightly under the divider between stalls, attracting the attention of the occupant of the next stall-are used to signify that one wishes to connect with the person in the next cubicle. Often glory holes are drilled in the walls between cubicles in popular cottages. Ĭottages were and are located in places heavily used by many people such as bus stations, railway stations, airports and university campuses. Among gay men in the United States, lavatories used for this purpose are called tea rooms. This usage is predominantly British, though the term is occasionally used with the same meaning in other parts of the world.
The word "cottage", usually meaning a small, cosy, countryside home, is documented as having been in use during the Victorian era to refer to a public toilet and by the 1960s its use in this sense had become an exclusively homosexual slang term. The term has its roots in self-contained English toilet blocks resembling small cottages in their appearance in the English cant language of Polari this became a double entendre by gay men referring to sexual encounters.
The appearance of public lavatories, like this one in Pond Square, Camden, London, is the origin of the term cottaging.Ĭottaging is a gay slang term, originating from the United Kingdom, referring to anonymous sex between men in a public lavatory (a "cottage", "tea-room" ), or cruising for sexual partners with the intention of having sex elsewhere.